Aries

North Node in Aries

FIND A PERSONAL ROAD TO HELP UNDERSTAND YOURSELF BETTER, AND GET IN TOUCH WITH BOTH YOUR "EGO" AND YOUR IMAGE MORE DEEPLY

You have a profound need to find a road that allows you to become more individuated. Too often you feel a bit lost, lacking a solid identity. At least this is your perception of yourself. You need to work on the way in which you perceive yourself and on the image that you show to others. If your image has no substance from within, it will seem empty and without structure, like a mask put on to cover something weak or to hide something ugly.
You must discover who you are without constantly looking for answers from others, as when you do this, you feel sad, devalued and lacking personality. It is then that you should also feel the anger and the desire to be someone and something. Identity cannot be ephemeral as this is how you present yourself to the world. If it is not well defined, the world will pass you by. Always putting others ahead of yourself does not make you altruistic as healthy selfishness is the key for any altruism. The great philosopher C. G. Jung tells us that in order to be able to go beyond the ego there has to be one: you need to appreciate your personal life before being able to appreciate the things that other people do.

FIND YOUR SEPARATE AND SOLID IDENTITY WITHOUT LEANING ON OTHERS AND WITHOUT LETTING OTHERS LEAN ON YOU

The strong need to feel accepted and recognized has led you too easily to focus yourself on others and on what you think they want from you.
This has made you dependent on others and unable to support your own needs in a clear and direct way. The other side of the coin can also be seen in a kind of concealed anger towards those not seeming to understand your needs and limits and which end up being suppressed because you had not made them clear to others. If the sentiments of others become more important than your own, you will be contributing to a constant imbalance that leads to you blaming others for your misfortunes and as a result of this you will fail to see the role that you play in such situations.
Being in a solid relationship means that you need to understand that there are two people with separate and definite identities. If you always have a need to feel accepted or recognized then your personal will has been silenced and made to give in to the other's wish. You must stop accepting compromises that are not respectful of your personality and identity. Cultivate your personal will and you will begin to feel your strength.

ASSERTING YOURSELF IS A PRIORITY THAT HELPS YOU TO UNDERSTAND YOURSELF AND HOW TO SHOW IT

When one is needy and frightened it is wrongly believed that self-affirmation is negative and that will end up alienating us from others and from our life itself. It is not like that. Others must learn to value and define you based on how you will value, respect and defend what you are. This is the reason why if you dismiss your own needs, others will follow suit. To make yourself known and to defend who you are is not only your right but your duty but you must learn to do it while respecting the dignity and rights of others. You can express clearly what you want but still remain open to compromise and to sharing with others.

THE PURPOSE OF YOUR JOURNEY

Now that you know the path that you need to take to be able to better understand your journey, you are able to verify that staying connected to yourself exactly, when you are most tempted to put the needs of others ahead of your own, is fundamental; at that very moment you will have to pay attention not to repeat the same behavioural patterns that you carry from the past and that, in this journey, you have chosen to overcome and change.
You are perfectly aware that only through relationships are you able to discover new things about yourself. You must welcome these things without allowing others to interpret them for you. Finding strength helps to have true relationships, where you do not always put others ahead of yourself and occasionally seek to be put ahead of them. You will also avoid building up anger towards others or constantly apologising for all the things you have done.
As soon as you see this behavioural pattern in action, you will able to move on to a greater fulfilment that allows you to be happy with yourself, aware of your self-worth and able to create relationships in a healthier way than before whilst avoiding the same problems coming up time and again.