The man profile
by Lidia Fassio
The natives of this sign have potential which, in our culture, is defined as "male". In fact they have a strong energy which is quickly turned on, and each Aries man has the mind of a warrior, able to defend and to attack, easily subject to positive and negative impulses, able to react instinctively to any solicitation.
Winning is thus an integral part of any man who has these values; however, winning is not enough because each person needs to be able to enjoy it, and therefore, it is necessary to have stability, to bring something strongly combustible to a stage where it could be usable; whether it’s about territorial, professional or romantic conquest, it is always important to be able to see its benefits. Here the problems begin because this type of energy has difficulty in remaining very stable: his real push is at the beginning, in giving life ... after which Aries seems totally disinterested in what happens, because the energy declines and it will not brighten again until a new possibility of conquest is in sight.
Often, things begin to be transformed when one begins to see the limit of this behaviour, and it is then that there will be strong possibilities of being able to transform this immense potential into a great creative work: oneself.
The Aries man is, above when young, easy prey for his rage: he really has a very short fuse and often does not manage to control the situations that he encounters and ends up with bursts of rage that are immature and only partially resolve problems. Since this anger is so powerful there is always a strong need to be accepted and showing one’s worth; this is his strongest difficulty: he is afraid of being outsmarted, above all at a thinking and dialectic level, and without being able to keep his difficulties back, reacts by attacking, thinking in this way to come out winning.
In fact, his anger is the first stage of growth, but if he does not evolve he will end up destroying everything he touches and also what he is; moreover, over time he will be unable to communicate and interact with others. His anger is used to create differentiation and distance himself, and therefore native Aries are often fiercely afraid of being sucked into an undifferentiated state that they immediately distance themselves from by expressing anger.
Being the first sign of the Zodiac, Aries, is also the closest to the sphere of instinctive drives: anger is the most intense and strongest emotion, also because its objective is to protect us from something, of safeguarding vital space and identity: anger, if not expressed, tends to "escalate", and at its apex it is self-destructive or produces aggressive behaviour. It is often said that anger "becomes blind", and the Aries man, has been blinded many times by anger. Anger interrupts the circuits of rational and personal thought, therefore trapping the person inside, without thinking of assessing the exact situation in question.
The Aries man thus has a great need to relate to an opposite sign through which it can learn to mediate and take a break: true and personal breaks that could put him in contact with his rational thought patterns again, the only one which manages to “cool him down”.
Anger can help change reality, based on the need to "make something happen" something in the world (if we do not manage to make something happen we feel powerless), but it cannot and must not be left to itself because otherwise it ends up devastating our world. When the native Aries has learnt to get in contact with this type of energy and to control it, his conquest will then become a precious asset that will be able to give what he does sense and give him a objective that he will be able to finally enjoy.